Principally, I think happiness comes from being un-self-conscious — just forgetting about yourself. It’s the most important thing you can do. You just become a pair of eyes. And if you’re really looking, then there’s endless astonishment and delight to be had. This is the most wonderful, wonderful world.

Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.